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To my followers who got a notification for this: no you didn't. This is personal drama, not anything anyone else needs to worry about! But just in case I'm leaving out the details.
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@MT26 - A Nicheling (your main didn't have the option for status posts so posting this here instead)
Sorry for posting this publicly, but I've set my one boundary (the one about not replying to DMs) and I want to stick to it. If you want a life update I can do that on a public thread.
I think my recent avoidance speaks for the fact I have not changed or grown in a way that would make this friendship work. I'm sure with a lot of time and mutual effort things *could* be fixed, but I am not ready. If you've grown, I'm glad. I hope that helps you in future relationships. What you're offering sounds nice but I'm happy where I am and don't need the extra stress.
Looking back, the problems were always there. The partnership just amplified them.
I've realized my issue was not about the reply times, but rather the fact that there was always something I needed to reply to and completing the task was only rewarded with more. It was a constant, sisyphean blanket of stress for years.
There were good times yes, enjoyable moments and fun shenanigans, but often they didn't outweigh the bad.
Would I have ever chosen to initiate a conversation on my own? I don't know. There was never an opportunity for me to find out because there was always already an ongoing conversation. I'm simply not built for active online friendships. I need interactions to have a clear cut beginning and an end, and I need life to get in the way of them happening constantly.
(I don't know if this makes it better or worse, but having now experienced student life in this economy, I doubt our meetup plans would've been possible anyway. I can just about afford food, rent and other necessities.)
So, sorry, but I will have to decline your offer. We can talk on public forum threads but not in PMs, and I'm hoping from now on we will both stick to that.
I accept your apologies, and offer my own for the years of avoidance, the way I handled things and disappointing you once more. But as is clear by me only getting back to you now, I have not changed and would probably just mess it all up again. I wish you (and your fruit trees) the best.Here's the wip of the drawing, which I planned to be a triptych of a sort. It didn't get very far - I wanted to practice drawing lakes to get it to look right.
And as a bonus, here's the wip of the initial idea I had for the art trade last spring before I realized my color theory was not at a level where I could pull it off. It's Commander C's first day at work
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[Putting my response here to similarly ask for some privacy]
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This is a bit awkward since I had put my boundary to only reply to DMs and not public posts on the topic, which is why I had disabled status messages. But I’m willing to be flexible on such things so here I am and I’ve enabled them now.Things have changed a lot for me during all this time, every few months felt like a different phase of it. Some early months really overshadowed any past experience I had, tho at least the average has gotten milder with time. Been trying my best to find a new direction.
For the interaction aspect, I guess for me it was the appreciation of forming a close friendship where we shared both everyday things and larger dreams. My closest friendships have always been built on frequent interactions, however brief they might be. Whether it’s just sharing today’s art ideas and what we did, or talking about deeper things and goals. I understand that might have felt like a pressure of constant interaction when your expectations are of something much more distant/sparce, and your lack of communication and my anxiety just made it worse. Hurts so much to see how that issue ended consuming everything that we had built for so many years.
But now that I can understand you better, it is something that I can definitely work around with. I used to message/ask more since I was worried of you not being around, and now realize it’s something that was part of the issue. Can definitely work with not doing that anymore, and only sticking to “beginning and end” type of interactions. It’s not something that’s too much to ask and can definitely stick to it in order to avoid making you feel like it’s endless questions. And sure, feel free to share about you in the book server (since the forums are kinda dead lol, and I know a lot of the people still check the server and might want to hear) or here or wherever you want. You’re free to ping me anytime and comment on my profile now. Feel free to explore starting chats if that’s what you wanted to do. Up to you, I’m just glad we’re able to talk and try to reach something that works and makes us both happy.
One question I have is if your “no DM” thing includes “non conversation” interactions such as asking if you’re interested in an art chain or occasionally to play a game and such? Since it would be a bit goofy to have to keep posting those in here.
I accept your apologies too, hope we can find a balance where both of us feel happy and comfortable. I’m glad we’re able to have this conversation, appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing the art, it means a lot to me. Wasn’t sure at all what to expect, in some dreams I had you shared it and it always looked so different. I’ve said it so many times and I’ll keep saying it, but your art style is so beautiful. Love so much what you did, thank you Lily. Also love the sketch of my silly guys, they are so cute too. Now I’ll have them as my Michelin star dinner ❤️ I can die happy now /pos /lh
Some lil stuff I can share; had started a drawing kinda inspired by your stuff, tho only ever did Adam. (Can make a version with her too if you wish). It’s funny how both of the drawings had the lakes.
Also last time during internship breaks I tried to mess with a design program to invent our house. They never taught us that program in college so wanted to try it with that little project. It’s just barely started and extremely messy, but wanted to do something inspired by our jokes of the 2 styles. (Ignore the brick texture, it was a placeholder). This summer I’m going to actually try to learn that program so maybe I’ll continue to mess with that project.
Back then I began to try to collect Minecraft movie stuff for you, since I wanted to watch the movie with you. Never ended watching it, and I don’t think I could bring myself to watch it alone. Didn’t continue the collection after stuff changed, but kept the ones I already had in case things ever changed.
Glad to hear from you and love the art, hope to get some revenge in July if all goes well. Some beautiful art I got of our handsome son (credit to an AF friend)
An extra bonus, wanted to share a beautiful song that used to play in my grandpa’s radio. It’s about two old friends.
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@Hypsi It’s complete now ^^
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