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Posts posted by Spacestar TheThundersuncat
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I'm that slightly annoying wanderer
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I'd say something, but then again, I'm masquerading as a cat
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@pebbleheart, there are two types, oral and genital
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They say you never lose them, but despite herpes hell as a kid, I haven't had any in 10 years now. Maybe there's hoping? (But I also had a weird form in my mouth...)
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26 minutes ago, angelheart said:
Essentially, neopronouns are mostly for disabled or abused people (eg an autistic person who does not feel connected to most pronouns creates their own that does not make them feel like a burden to society, or a person who was physically abused for using their preferred pronouns so much that they become a trigger to them, and they revert to lesser used pronouns).
People not validating or simply accepting that neopronouns aren't a Terror To Trans Folk Everywhere and Anybody Who Uses Neopronouns Should Die (as that has actually been threatened before) is... really ableist/victim blaming and is really just repeating mantras that have been told to us years after years - that people who are disabled shouldn't exist, that victims deserved it... ECT
I don't know whether they're a terror to anyone, as I'm neither a trans person nor have met someone using them. Personally, I'l call people whatever they want me to. Even if you assume that people are "deluded "as some conservatives do, you're not going to help someone's alienation "problem" by being an moron and alienating them further. If you assume that there's more than two genders anyway (I don't see why there couldn't be a midway, no way, whatever) you end at the same place. Or that's my understanding of it... there's just a lot more harm to do by being wrong and a douche.
So Bigotry doesn't make sense here, no matter your stance. Though I suppose I'd still slip into somewhat offensive themes without knowing it. Or have some different opinions on where the line is, but it seems so does the community. I mostly just don't know what to think. Maybe brain scans on the matter will improve and clear some issues once and for all... But I'll wait 'till then and try to improve my reasoning skills. Weeding out bad arguments and all that.
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But more importantly, why are you a Gourd now. Why would you and your fine plant-self define itself as a mushy, green almost-berry from hell 🧐.😭
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42 minutes ago, Thunder Gourd said:
Just to throw in a little bit of pessism/realism in this: if you are a person that stands out from the mass in any way you'll get weird looks, you might even get people that don't like you because of it and that will say something about it. That is normal. You don't need to be offended straight away and throw an internet rave. People have to get used to weird stuff and some never do. If you are different or if you choose to be different you have to grow a thick skin. Period.
Of course if you are seriously discriminated for whatever reason or seriously attacked (in mind or body) you should do something against it.
That being said being offended usually means you are insecure about yourself. If you are confident in yourself why the heck would you care if anybody used the wrong pronoun? (Especially when people do it on accident). You should always be aware of this and don't assume people mean any ill will by it.
I mean I decided to color my hair blue and I am not crying about the people that look at me funny (almost all people do) or say something about it (usually some 'funny' comments about smurfs, Arielle or Karneval). I either laugh, roll my eyes or ignore them.
You have to be happy with yourself but you can't expect others to be happy with yourself.
I don't care who or what you are. You can be what you like but you can't force people to accept you. The best way to get people to accept you is to accept yourself and be nice and understanding.
I probably offended people with this. Ah well.
There's thick skin and then there's "reality control". In other words, there's pain or offending someone, and there's denying their existence. They merge, but they're seperate categories. In extreme forms, imagine victims of narcissists. There's something else going on there than just hurt.
Thick skin helps to a point, but there's more involved than the emotion of "I'm offended/hurt by this". Dysphoria. I guess I might feel that too if I were to lose an arm, and something on the outside moved the internal image of "body" 36 degrees to the right. The problematic part is, that in order to grow a thick skin against that, you'd have to completely ignore the validity of other's perception on a level, which will turn you into an asshole. Thick skin and being accepting-first-to-be-accepted kinda doesn't work out long term.
What adds to it, is that dysphoria is traumatizing. There's a difference between pain and fear that the bad experience will happen all over again. (E.g. a soldier is not offended by war, or a survivor of domestic abuse offended by violence). Your blue hair won't do that for you, nor would them pointing it out deny that you have hair. I'm not sure if that's helpful to you, but you're mixing up causes and emotions. You can't treat all three of these the same way and expect good results. They each deserve their own strategy, but said strategies are largely incompatible, like with thick skin above.
Think about it. They hear it again and again. Yet, they're still here with even more issues, instead of getting over it, like other people would. There's clearly more to it than offence or this wouldn't be the norm. Still, I'd agree that not every joke is a menace in disguise. Intent really makes a difference...
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2 hours ago, angelheart said:
Okay, I'll clarify since I was tagged ^^'':
It was the fact that people were making fun of them instead of asking me to clarify them- as somebody who's seen (and been the target of) prejudice and lgbtq+phobia (especially against trans and disabled folk) , I saw that you guys were being both albeist and transphobic, even if you guys didn't realise.
It's like how if you saw something weird in somebodies home, then made jokes about it without realising it was of cultural importance to them.
Aside from zhe/they/xe... (other neutral-ish/non-standard/or non-binary variants) do people actually use these? I'm asking because I tried to google a comprehensive list with repeating ones and nothing like plant-self really comes up. Lists have drastically different ones, too. And some trans people really seem to hate them
Am I missing a point there and they're supposed to not resemble each other? Or is this more of a mental exercise?
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Renio is 2490 years old, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Especially Renio.
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Some people don't know how to deal with serious topics. Maybe they have some bias against it, or they really just feel lost. Even when they eventually listen, you can be prepared to re-explain yourself 300 times. But... you'll run into an alike issue with almost anyone. Maybe it will take time, maybe you'll never get anywhere on that level.
Still, I personally don't believe that a high level of depth is possible with everyone. But when people don't have all that you're looking for, you might just have to look for the missing parts too, but somewhere else. Sometimes we can't give what others need. Sometimes we don't even notice the harm... though any future regrets of theirs won`t be useful to you right now
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It's 3.28 am here and I've gotten to the point of general stupidity where "headliney" doesn't seem odd anymore. Good night
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Then your school is full of awful people
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5 minutes ago, Katumai said:
wow...thanks
I like how you said handsome even though im a girlI was kidding. But unless you're missing half your face and then some, you're not going to be ugly. Or even bad looking, if you invest in the right clothing, hair and makeup. You probably look just fine and/or pretty right now
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4 minutes ago, Katumai said:
Odd, I never suspect anyone has a crush on me
because im ugly and I have no friendsbecause I don't see a point in hoping or anythingand hopefully you meet one soon, trust me, we're not the spawns of satan :')
literally something that my friend's grandma called meI'm sure you'll be handsome naked mole rat when you've grown up
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I'm disappointed that I couldn't care less about romance and still get less sleep than the average person. You'd think it be good for something, but no.
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I've known quite some, especially now in the city. Bisexuality is supposedly much more common than one would assume
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8 minutes ago, Goggles-kun said:
Huh. All the people I’ve crushed on weren’t hot
My first memory of looking at a person was thinking how disfigured our species might seem to others, and it hasn't changed. I'm basically a naked mole rat, just with a higher chance of cancer
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Couldn't you have picked another target? Just... I don't even know. Some are not in the right situation to not take things personally